Marriage - Same Sex

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Wanda Sykes on Gay Marriage

Doesn't Happen Over-night
Gay, Straight, Black, White, Marriage is an Equal Right
State Court Says Same-Sex Couples Entitled to Marry
Why I Got Married

State Court Says Same-Sex Couples Entitled to Marry


The Massachusetts high court declared Wednesday that gays are entitled to nothing less than marriage and that Vermont-style civil unions will not suffice, setting the stage for the nation's first legally sanctioned same-sex weddings by the spring.

The court issued the advisory opinion at the request of legislators who wanted to know whether civil unions would be enough to satisfy the court after its November ruling that said gay couples are entitled to all the rights of marriage. That decision had been written in such a way that it left open the possibility that civil unions might be allowed.

But Wednesday's opinion by the Supreme Judicial Court left no doubt: Only marriage would pass constitutional muster.

''The history of our nation has demonstrated that separate is seldom, if ever, equal,'' four justices wrote. ''For no rational reason the marriage laws of the commonwealth discriminate against a defined class; no amount of tinkering with language will eradicate that stain. The (civil unions) bill would have the effect of maintaining and fostering a stigma of exclusion that the Constitution prohibits.''

Paul Martinek, editor of Lawyers Weekly USA, said that the blunt opinion erases any confusion.

''The fat lady has sung and she's singing the wedding march,'' Martinek said. ''It's clear from reading the majority opinion that there's no basis on which the (court) will OK anything other than marriage.''

The much-anticipated opinion came a week before next Wednesday's Constitutional Convention, where the Legislature will consider an amendment backed by Republican Gov. Mitt Romney that would define marriage as a union between a man and a woman.

But the soonest a constitutional amendment could end up on the ballot would be 2006, meaning that until then, the high court's decision will be Massachusetts law. Gay couples could get married in Massachusetts as soon as May, the deadline set by the court last fall.

''We're going to have to start looking for a band,'' said Ed Balmelli, who put down a deposit for a wedding after the opinion.

The case represents a significant milestone in a year that has seen broad new recognitions of gay rights in America, Canada and abroad, including a June U.S. Supreme Court decision striking down a Texas ban on gay sex.

The White House called the Massachusetts ruling ''deeply troubling.''

''Activist judges continue to seek to redefine marriage by court order without regard for the will of the people,'' said presidential spokesman Scott McClellan.

Senate President Robert Travaglini, who will preside over the constitutional convention, said he would consult with fellow lawmakers about the next step.

''I want to have everyone stay in an objective and calm state as we plan and define what's the appropriate way to proceed,'' he said. ''There is a lot of anxiety out there obviously surrounding the issue but I don't want to have it cloud or distort the discussion.''

The federal government and 38 other states have enacted laws barring the recognition of any gay marriages in other jurisdictions. Vermont recognizes marriage-like civil unions that grant gay couples nearly all the rights and benefits of full marriage, such as health insurance, hospital visitation and inheritance rights.

The Massachusetts decision will probably lead to multiple lawsuits about whether gay marriage benefits can extend beyond the state's borders. The right to same-sex marriage would be for state residents only, but the rules are unclear on how it would be enforced.

The legal battle in Massachusetts began in 2001, when seven gay couples went to their city and town halls to obtain marriage licenses. All were denied, leading them to sue the state.

The Supreme Judicial Court ruled in November that gay couples have a constitutional right to marry, and gave the Legislature six months to change state laws to make it happen.

The state Senate then asked for more guidance from the court.

''The dissimilitude between the terms 'civil marriage' and 'civil union' is not innocuous; it is a considered choice of language that reflects a demonstrable assigning of same-sex, largely homosexual, couples to second-class status,'' the justices wrote.

Conservative leaders said they would redouble their efforts to pass the constitutional ban on same-sex marriages.

''This now puts the pressure back on the Legislature to do their job to protect and defend marriage for the citizens of the state to allow them to vote,'' said Ron Crews, president of the Massachusetts Family Institute.

Residents and leaders of Massachusetts towns with sizable gay populations saw the ruling as a good business opportunity. ''The town can now offer something gays and lesbians have waited their whole lives for,'' said Provincetown tourism director Patricia Fitzpatrick.

Mark Carmien has a sign in his gay-themed bookstore counting down the days to May 17 - 103 as of Wednesday. His store is located in Northampton, a college town in western Massachusetts that has a large gay population.

''It's now crystal clear, if it wasn't before, that the court meant marriage. The word itself has power and benefits that are intangible,'' said Carmien, who plans to marry his partner in June. ''It's a very brave and historic decision.''
Source: Jennifer Peter

Stae-by-State Laws

Source: CNN Human Rights Campaign Foundation

Gay, Straight, Black, White, Marriage is an Equal Right


Don't politicians know by now that separate but equal does not and cannot ever work? You'd think that society has made some sort of progress since the laws of racially segregated marriage pre-1967 but one look at the possibility of marriage for same couples today to see that this is not true.

It would be unspeakable for a state government to try and pass a constitutional amendment banning marriage between people of different races yet when marriage is suggested between two men or two women, the Bush administration seems to have no problems trying to enforce such a ban.

On March 11th the Massachusetts State Legislature voted in favor of a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage and on the same day, the California supreme court ordered officials in San Francisco who had been issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples, to stop immediately. This denial of marriage to gay and lesbian couples is akin to the same sort Jim Crow policies that could be seen before the civil rights movement of the late 60's. For lots of working class couples, marriage is an institution necessary to survival because of the concomitant economic benefits and so denial of this to gay and lesbian couples turns this into an issue much bigger than just freedom to marry whomsoever one chooses.

Heterosexual married couples are guaranteed 1047 federal rights by being married, homosexual couples in Civil Unions, which are only allowed in and recognized in two states, are guaranteed only 500 of these rights. This is not just an issue of gay and lesbian rights, this is an issue of civil rights.

And we are seeing the emergence of a new civil rights movement around this issue. People around the country from San Francisco, CA to New Paltz, NY, gay and lesbian couples are demanding marriage licenses and winning. People, gay, straight and everything in between, are taking to the streets to demand rights for themselves. The so called radical moves of San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom and New Paltz mayor Jason West in issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples, could not have happened if there had not been a spontaneous movement of people in the streets. To win equal rights for homosexual couples, we need to stand up and fight for them. We know that Bush won't do it and we can hope no more from John "leave it to the states to decide" Kerry.

Let's begin the discussion about gay marriage here in Burlington and join the national movement. Come to a panel discussion, The Fight for Gay Marriage: Separate is not Equal, sponsored by the Progressive Party, the Peace and Justice Center, the Green Party, the International Socialist Organization, and the American Friends Service Committee on March 31st at 7.30 PM in Williams 301. The panel will feature speakers Christopher Kaufman, from R.U.1.2, a speaker from the VT Freedom to Marry Task Force, Sherry Wolf from the International Socialist Organization and Peggy Luhrs from the Women's International League for Peace and Freedom. We need to let the Bush Administration know that we won't settle for the back of the bus and that marriage must be a right for all.
Source: By: Charlotte Miller, www.vermontcynic.com/media/storage/paper308/news/2004/04/06/Opinion/Gay-Straight.Black.White.Marriage.Is.An.Equal.Right-651834.shtml?norewrite200604271423&sourcedomain=www.vermontcynic.com

Doesn't Happen Over-night


For most of us, realizing that we're gay or bisexual isn't something that happens overnight. We don't go to sleep straight one day and wake up gay the next (or the opposite). Perhaps we have had crushes on people of the same sex, or perhaps we have felt very distinctly that our gender or sexual roles just aren't comfortable for us. While things that like certainly don't mean we are gay or bisexual, they are clues that we might be. As we get to know the whole of ourselves better as we grow and mature, we also get a better understanding and fuller knowledge of our sexuality and orientation, and getting to understand who we are isn't something we can do in a day: it's a lifelong process.

Many teens have a lot of questions when it comes to homosexuality and bisexuality. In a culture that is often so damning of orientation and sexual identity outside heterosexuality, many teens become nervous when they feel attracted to those of the same sex, worried that they might be gay. Others suspect (or are even very sure) that they are homosexual or bisexual, but are afraid to say so either because they aren't completely sure and feel they will be branded in some way, or simply because they fear being rejected, outcast or scolded by their friends, family or community. While at least 8 million people in the United States are homosexual, about 70 million people still think it is an "illness" or "perversion." Being nervous or afraid to come out is -- unfortunately -- very valid and reasonable.

The first step -- no matter our orientation -- to making decisions about our sexual identity, and how we view that of others, is to know the answers to some basic questions. It's very hard to make up our minds when we aren't all on the same page, or we aren't really sure what something means. Bear in mind that even people with adequate information sometimes don't agree with it, and define things differently because that information conflicts with their own beliefs. All the same, there are some important facts that all of us -- gay, straight, and everything in between -- should know.
Source: www.scarleteen.com/gaydar/basics.html

Chains do not hold a marraige together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years. - Simone Signoret

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